Skill

Reframe the Situation

Look at the event from a perspective that supports a safer response.

What it is

Reframing means looking at the same situation from a perspective that is more accurate, useful, or accountable.

How to do it

Identify the current frame.

Ask what emotion it creates.

Ask whether the frame is accurate.

Choose a more neutral or accountable frame.

Choose behavior from the new frame.

Remember

You cannot always change the event. You can change the meaning you give it.

Want to understand this more deeply?

Chapter 3: Slow My Thinking

Read the story and teaching behind this skill, then come back here when you want to practice it.

Make room for explanations other than your first one.

Talk yourself toward responsibility rather than permission.

Look beyond the next thirty seconds before choosing what to do.