Skill

Understand Jealousy

Identify the fear, insecurity, or belief underneath jealousy.

What it is

Jealousy is an emotional response connected to fear of losing attention, affection, status, closeness, or a relationship.

How to do it

Name the jealousy.

Ask what you are afraid of losing.

Separate facts from assumptions.

Notice any urge to monitor, accuse, follow, demand, or control.

Choose a response that manages your emotion without managing another person.

Remember

Jealousy is yours to manage. It is not permission to control someone else.

Want to understand this more deeply?

Chapter 2: Understand What I’m Feeling

Read the story and teaching behind this skill, then come back here when you want to practice it.

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