Skill

Examine Entitlement

Notice when wanting something becomes believing you are owed it.

What it is

Entitlement is the belief that because you want, expect, prefer, or value something, another person is obligated to provide it.

How to do it
Identify the expectation.
Look for should, must, has to, or owes me.
Ask whether this is a preference or a right.
Ask whether the other person has a legitimate choice.
Manage your disappointment without control.
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Remember
Wanting something strongly does not make another person responsible for providing it.
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Chapter 3: Slow My Thinking

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